6 Things You Can Do To Avoid Midlife Crisis
By Dr. Kurt Smith
March 14, 2018 • Fact checked by Dumb Little Man
If you are entering the mid-years of your life you may be worried about the impending midlife crisis that you are sure to face. Because it’s a fact, right – in your mid-life you deal with a crisis?
Midlife crisis can happen to anyone at anytime. Some people experience it early while others struggle with it in the late stages of their lives.
Now, although common, it doesn’t mean that there’s no way for you to avoid it. Check out the tips below to help you stave off or mitigate a midlife crisis.
Believe that it’s never too late
A lot of people who are in their mid-life years panic when they start to take inventory of the things they wanted to do but never made time for. They feel that it’s too late to make them happen now.
It really isn’t.
You still have time to write a book, climb a mountain, travel the world or learn to do that thing you always wanted to. It may seem a little tough when those around you are younger. However, if you really want to avoid having a crisis, you need to accept that if you really want to do it, your age shouldn’t stop you.
Evaluate your priorities
Priorities change over time and for good reasons. It is okay to let go of some dreams and expectations if they no longer appeal to you. You haven’t sold yourself short if you find saving for retirement is more important to you than buying a Porsche.
Accepting that priorities change is important and healthy. Doing so will keep you grounded as you move into the new phases of your life.
Stop waiting for things
Now is the time to do something.
That doesn’t mean you need to be extravagant or do something really bold. It simply means that once you identify what you want or what you want to do, make a plan and get it done.
Putting things on hold or constantly waiting for things to happen can leave you feeling unfulfilled and more anxious.
A word of caution:
Doing the things you want and getting what you want out of life is important, but it needs to be done responsibly. Seek advice as needed so that your choices are good ones.
Deal with your regrets
We all have regrets. It is nearly impossible to get through life without wishing you had or had not done certain things. Take the time to get over them.
Take whatever rational measures that may help– apologize, reconnect and then let them go. Moving on does not make you a bad person.
Cultivate friendships now
If you don’t have a good circle of friends yet, then it’s time to make one.
The worst part of midlife crisis is when people feel like they have no one to turn to.
Friends give you a support system, a sounding board, and the happiness of companionship. Never underestimate the power of friendship.
Get or stay in shape
Never underestimate the power of health and exercise.
There is no need to explain the benefits of exercise to your body but you may not realize how important exercise is to your mind. Regular exercise keeps your mind sharp and helps to alleviate stress.
Depending on your preferred exercise, it can also provide an avenue for new friendships and achievements.
See Also: 19 Ways to Get Motivated to Exercise
In Conclusion
The second half of your life doesn’t have to be scary, depressing or full of crisis.
Understanding that life has its ups and downs and being prepared for them is important. If you feel like you are headed down the path toward midlife crisis, take a moment to stop and take stock of what you are feeling and why.
Use the tips above to get you through the process. If you don’t feel like you can get back on the right path, seek the help of a professional counselor.
For some people, a midlife crisis can be very complicated. It is possible that you may need help to get through it –a lot of people do.
Dr. Kurt Smith
Dr. Kurt Smith is the Clinical Director of Guy Stuff Counseling & Coaching, a Northern California counseling practice that specializes in helping men and the women who love them. His expertise is in understanding men, their partners, and the unique relationship challenges couples face today. Dr. Kurt is a lover of dogs, sarcasm, everything outdoors, and helping those seeking to make their relationships better.