7 Secrets for a Successful Long Distance Relationship
By Christine Aluoch O.
November 4, 2016 • Fact checked by Dumb Little Man
Many people find long distance relationships difficult. In fact, some people avoid such relationships at all costs because the distance tends to lead to feelings of loneliness and depression.
However, if you are in a long distance relationship, the good news is that you and your partner can work together to create and maintain a stable relationship even if you’re apart most of the time.
Here are 7 secrets that will help you maintain a successful long term relationship:
1.Be Committed
You and your partner should commit yourselves to working together in order to make the relationship work. Both of you should have a clear plan on how you are going to go about it.
You should also have your goals in mind as far as your relationship is concerned. This will keep both of you on the same page.
2. Always communicate
Communication is very essential in any relationship. Without this, the relationship is doomed to fail.
Thanks to the technological advancements, it is now possible to talk to people anywhere around the world at any time that is convenient for them. You can call, chat, text, email and even video call your better half anywhere around the world.
Do this as often as possible as a couple. Make it a habit. This builds a very strong connection between you and your partner.
3. Trust each other
You and your partner should fully trust each other. Without trust, your partner may feel insecure at times especially when you do not talk often.
This may also bring about jealousy especially when your partner gets to find out that you go out on dates with other people especially those of the opposite sex. Both of you should strive to gain each other’s trust and to focus on not breaking it.
If you are a married couple, it is possible that both of you already have a strong foundation of trust and you should try hard to strengthen it even more.
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4. Let out your feelings
You and your partner may sometimes have disagreements. It happens in all relationships.
If you have a problem with your partner, it is wise to let them know about it. If you keep the problem to yourself for the fear of hurting you partner, you end up being hurt even more.
Sometimes letting out your feelings may end up costing you and your partner the relationship you both worked so hard to sustain. However, it is better to be happy being alone than being in a relationship that makes you miserable.
Letting out your feelings also helps your partner know what your likes and dislikes are.
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5. Visit your partner
If possible, plan to visit your partner as often as possible. During these visits, you can engage in new and exciting activities together, visit new places and even have intimate dates. These visits are essential because you and your partner get to reconnect after a long time of being apart.
6. Long distance dinner dates
Did you know that you can have long distance dates? Here’s how to do it. You and your partner can decide on a day that’s convenient for both of you to do this. You can cook your partner’s favorite dish and they do the same on their side.
After cooking, sit in front of the computer and eat the meal together as you chat via a video call. Both of you will find this very interesting and intimate. You will definitely want to do it over and over again.
7. Have long term plans
Make your long term plans together. This ensures that both of you have each other in mind. Plan the next visit even before the current one is over. This will make both of you look forward to the next visit thus creating a strong bond.
Ensure that even if you are far apart, your life together is not at a halt. Ensure that you are still focused onto your future together.
Long distance relationships really do work. You just have to give it your best short and have a mutual understanding of each other. Remember that both of you have to work towards the same goal, having a successful long distance relationship.
Christine Aluoch O.
Hospitality manager and freelance writer